and because I cannot bear the thought of throwing away his clothes, or donating them to a charity shop (for fear that I may see someone wearing one of his shirts ... which would freak me out), I have also made a decision on what to do. I'll keep a few of the clothes that I particularly loved him in or that hold special memories, but the rest? Well, they are going to be turned into a quilt, perhaps something like the example shown here, but I will listen to the quilter's expertise on this.
I have found an extremely gifted quilter (is that a word?) who makes memorial quilts, and she is a widow too. Not only that, she writes a really eloquent blog about the loss of her "dragon" (husband), and somehow the thought of another widow, who walks this path, who knows what I feel and fear makes it even more meaningful.
As I've mentioned before, I have some laundry preserved in plastic, JUST IN CASE, as a security blanket, and occasionally I'll wear one of his shirts to feel him near, or to sleep in. But I really like the idea of a quilt that I can curl up in, especially in the winter months.
Hopefully when I open my in box tomorrow at work, there will be a reply from her. Now all I need to do is get ready to start cutting fabric from his clothes, and that may take more than one or even two attempts ... but I'll get there.
Here are the links to her blog about her loss, as well as her blog on memory quilts: