I know that most widows get angry with their husbands for leaving them.
HOW CAN I? He didn't want to leave me. He tried to prepare me, in fact. I think that he subconsciously knew ...
Even as he was dying he worried about me. (See http://boomayhew.blogspot.com/2009/03/starting-at-beginning.html)
You don't get any more selfless than that. That IS love. Which makes me unbelievably lucky and privileged, even though I feel like my soul and heart have been put through a mincing machine.